We Are All Looking For Beauty (Anyi n'acho nma)

Yes...I still say categorically, Pamela's clock is not ticking...just making that point very loud and clear. Now, let's move on. (hehehehe, come and see the query I had to answer because of my previous post)...Anyways...

The other day , I was on a long subway ride home and I was bored to tears. I happen to look up and I noticed that there was an ad for hair dye for 'down there'. I thought my eyes were deceiving me and I decided to take another look at that ad. I forgot my camera that day, I would have taken a picture of the hair dye product. I laughed to myself as I wondered if women, have become so obsessed with beauty that they will go the extra mile of changing the color of their hair at a place in which anyone hardly sees. As I chuckled to myself, I realized that those lens that I was turning on society should be turned back to me.

I remember a long time ago, all the women around me were all 'makeuping". Name the make up, someone amongst the girls had it. Name the hair style, someone amongst the girls had done it. Well, minus me. I was Ms. Natural to the core. No make up, No perm, natural products because I believed that the way God made me is the way that I should present myself to the world.

Now, many moons later...I decide to take a look at my make up bag, as I count the number of lipsticks I have (6), lip gloss (9, two different chocolate flavors), eye pencil (1), mascara (2), eyeliner (1), hair color (1 - red), eyeshadow (13), nail polish(12), lip liner (1) I wonder what has happened to the conservative, ms natural thing, that I used to be. Lol! the only thing that I do not use is foundation because I am so scared that I will look like a masquerade let loose because I do not know the right color to use and of course, my hair is natural and short.

So, the question is ...how much have I changed and by the time I turn 30 (not quite yet for those who are wondering when)...will I be purchasing a product for down there and will I have cut down there into the shape of a Mohawk (lol..I read that from some novel). Something to think about....why do we chase beauty so much?...is it for us or for others? has our concept of beauty changed as we've gotten older -- why is it??



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Hair Drama 101

Hair - Dead cells that causes untold drama in the life of many women.

I cut my hair in September, October, and December. Then I relocated, in the unfolding drama that took place when I relocated, I let my hair go and I did not cut it again. I have the kind of hair that many people will feel jealous of. In blackology (lol), it is called good hair. In Pamela's home, it is called, soft, full and extremely curly. It is the kind of hair, that I really do not have to do anything with - just wash, wear with a ribbon and I am set to go.

On Saturday, I started getting myself ready for this week (as you people know, I start my new job this week), I looked at my hair in the mirror and I just felt the urge to cut it down. I found a nice salon owned by Dominican women. I go in there, show them a picture, and tell them how short I want it. She starts cutting! I wanted more cut off. She cuts some more and then decides that she feels like putting some FLAVOR. Before you know it, there I am with almost gorimapa with some funny thing in front. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Lord will anyone recognize me when I step into the office? You know me, I decide to kinda work with the style. At least, I will be different eh. Most important thing.

3am, on Sunday, I wake up and go to the mirror to look at myself. I am nearly in tears. My beautiful hair - I miss it so much already. What was I thinking? sniff sniff. I think about wearing a WIG. Yes, in my time of STUPIDITY - I once bought a wig. Okay, the story was I was trying to impress someone who I shouldn't have been trying to impress. I looked for that wig, I couldn't find it. So there I am Sunday morning - depressed and searching for that wig. By 8 am, I realized - you know what? It is hair - It grows back. I definitely look different and I am GOING to WORK this short hair.

As I leave for church, I decide to work it. I feel much better about my hair now but I do miss it from time to time. I missed it more when I went to hang out with the baby and he looked at me and said "DADDY".

Confession time: I confess to reading Ekene Onu's,"the mrs club " at church during service. I couldn't put it down. That book is so well written and just simple DELISH!!

Ignore typos...I am getting ready to get out of here....


Question:

Ever considered cutting your hair really short? How did you feel after the cut?

Does a new hair cut often equate to a new outlook?


Men: Have you ever done anything drastic with your hair - jerry curls, dread, - how did you feel after that change?


Announcement: I will be working on SARFM Radio on Saturday from 2-5 pm (New York time). Ekene Onu (the author of the mrs.club) will be interviewed at 3 pm this saturday. Do tune in.
For those that have read her book - pls, send your questions to pamelastitch@yahoo.com, or put it in the interview corner on AfricanLoft.


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