Fresh Vibes Monday - Sauti Sol (Kenya), Still The One!

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Yes...O... I am Twenty - Something Today!

It all began on September 17th, about twenty something years ago in a hospital in Lagos, Nigeria. A little girl was born to a young mother who was still a student and an Engineer who had just begun his career. They both looked at the little girl and saw something. The Engineer saw a gift and her look reminded him of the old lady in his village who had always taken him in as a child. As such, he decided to name this girl, God's gift. The young student saw the child and looked into her future and saw that there will be many who will try to toy with her pride and gave her a name in metaphorical Igbo which means "may the eagle remain in the sky and keep on soaring". That little baby was Pamela.

To keep a form of balance in their lives, (as most people know, Engineers particularly in my dad's field tend to travel a lot), the little girl spent her baby years in a University in Jos and was catered to by her mother and her friends. To keep this little girl calm, so that her mother could study - the little girl was introduced to the library and the world of books. That started her thirst for knowledge and that is where my story begins.

Approximately, a year ago - I came to blogville and told you that I was quitting my job and was going to find myself. The push to go find myself was brought about by reading Paulo Coehlo's book, "the alchemist" and I realized that I had locked myself, particularly my creativity in a prison of fear that will not let me go. I quit my job and began my journey.

The journey was often times brutal and difficult, many times filled with different kinds of trials but within these trials there was often a form of joy because I knew I was doing what I wanted to do and I was at peace with my decision. In the process of my journey, I lost a lot of people (who called themselves friends) but also gained a lot of people who had my back with every stage in my life. I heard the sniggers and often times the stupid comments made by people who didn't understand but felt that because they had made certain choices, I should live my life like they did but I refused to budge. In the process, I rounded up one of my educational goals and put the finishing touches on other goals that I had left on the sides.

People who've followed my journey closely have often asked if I regret my decision and if I sit back at night wondering at what could have been if things hadn't gone the way they did. My answer is NO. Taking the plunge, involves the ability to ASSESS your risk and forgive yourself for past mistakes. To be quite frank, if I had remained where I was, I wouldn't have been able to achieve what I have now in terms of education, finance, job experience and information.

So, as I turn and still remain in the same age group, I start a new page today in my next journey (a couple of people know what it is) and I laugh as I face my future with courage.


PS: It will be quite ungrateful of me if I do not say a huge big thank you to you all and most especially the Paulo Coehlo's camp that reached out when I started my journey and actually sent me an email.

Thank You...Thank You..Thank You...

As I eat my cheese cake....I will think of you guys as I savor each bite and you guys will always remain in my thoughts.


Happy Birthday to all Virgos out there and also to me.
My birthday present to you guyz is the faith in dreams and the courage to pursue it.

Me, You And Baby Makes Three!

I have to admit that my biological clock hasn't started ticking yet. I really do not know when it will but not soon o...biko!! Anyways sha, the other day I watched a great Nolly Wood movie called, "behind closed doors" featuring RMD, Stella Damascus and Desmond Elliot. As some people know, I am a fan of RMD's ACTING but not his physique. Sorry, I do not believe that a man should have a big butt!

Oh, but I digress.. anyways, the premise of the movie is the title of this post. A man finds out that he has low sperm count and as such he can't get any woman pregnant, Naija + African male pride (alias stupidity -I know a couple of men will get me for this..lol!) wouldn't allow him to accept an adopted baby in his home. Instead, he colludes with his sick brother (who has a short time to live and who has a major crush on his wife) to get his wife pregnant via sexual relations. What happens next? You have to see the movie - it was well acted and the end ... just simply great.

But, it begs the question - how open will you be to adopting a child if you find out that you or your significant other do not have the ability to procreate? This question is particularly for men. We know for many women, their choice will be to remain childless and take the secret of the man's impotence to the grave while bearing insults from his family members and friends. Of course, if the reverse is the case - many African men have no problem going for wife number two, three or twenty.

This movie really did give me something to think about as I find myself asking if I will be open to adopting, artificial inseminating, buying a woman's ovaries or will I keep on praying and hoping, if such a scenario should occur in my home?


Thought for the day:

Why are many Africans wary of adopting babies from motherless babies home?